A few weeks ago Adeline took her preschool teacher aside and very seriously told her "There's a baby waiting for me in Vietnam" and she even told her that it was a sister, not a brother. I guess she knew before any of the rest of us...
We told Adeline about her sister by turning on the video camera and watching her reaction as we gave her a framed photo of Khanh. The reaction is PRICELESS and the questions Adeline asks and the things she says are some of the sweetest I've ever heard, and the tender expression on Adeline's face melts my heart, but unfortunately I can't share it with you yet as Khanh's clearly visible picture is in the video. I understand why they don't want us sharing the pictures publicly until the adoption is finalized, but it's hard! There's just so much cuteness to share!!! One of the first things Adeline did after we told her was to take the picture upstairs to put it beside her bed so that it can be the last thing she sees at night and the first thing she sees in the morning. She's been carrying a copy of the picture with her everywhere and has been proudly telling everyone we meet that she has a sister.
When we were sharing the news with Adeline we asked her what she thought the baby's name should be. Adeline names all dolls and most stuffies "Annabella Isabella" or "Bella" so I was sure she would say that, but without skipping a beat Adeline answered "Cherry Blossom". We've asked her since then and she still says that Cherry Blossom is a good name. I think whatever David and I choose, Adeline is going to be disappointed that we didn't go with her choice.
Adeline is super, super, super excited to be a big sister. I'm sure the reality of it will be quite different from what she's imagining, but I do think Adeline is up for the challenge. She wants to do EVERYTHING for the baby (except the diapers and she's even modified that to say that she's willing to put on the clean ones) and she has said a few times "Don't worry about my sister. I've got this. I can take care of her". I do think we're going to have to have some boundaries about what are Mama jobs and what are sister jobs, but I'm very glad she's willing to help! Adeline is excited to give all her old toys and outgrown clothes to the baby and she wants to buy her sister every single baby item we see in the store. Adeline is very disappointed that we won't be setting up the crib right beside her bed, as she really wanted her sister to share her room.
Of course, I have to worry. Worry that something might happen and Khanh won't be able to come home with us and that it will break my big girl's heart. We've already had one very difficult adoption experience that very nearly ended with our daughter not coming home, so we know that things can happen and that things do happen and that what you think is a "sure thing" is never a sure thing and that until your plane touches down at home things can still go wrong. But really, nothing should go wrong. There is no indication that anything will go wrong and many families before and after us have had blissfully easy adoptions and there's no reason to think we won't as well. Yeah. Logically I know that everything will likely be fine and our baby girl will be with us in six to twelve weeks, but I have to worry - mostly about how it would hurt Adeline, as she is already so in love and so sure that this is the baby that needed us to be her family. I've never been in the habit of prayer, but it might be a good time to start.